What if you could design your relationships instead of defaulting into them?
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Welcome. Pull up a chair.
If you’ve just arrived — maybe from the TEDx talk, maybe from a friend, maybe from a 2am search for “why does my relationship feel like this” — here’s where I’d point you first.
Most of us don’t realise there’s a whole smorgasbord of ways to do relationships. We just default into the one we inherited. This is what it looks like when you start designing on purpose.
Women over 40 are quietly rewriting their relationship scripts, and what they’re building is fascinating. My most-read piece, and the one that fills my inbox.
Yes, I really did this. The story of my own time-limited marriage — and what it taught me about commitment, honesty and designing the thing instead of enduring or blowing it up.
We have the logic of desire completely backwards. We think we need to feel safe before we can say what we want. The truth? Saying what we want is what creates the safety.
I spent 15 hours at a grocery store table with a conspiracy theorist and his friends. What happened cemented how I think about connection, empathy and all of the work I do.
My TEDx talk — a TED Editors’ Pick — is here if you’d rather watch than read.
My About page has the longer version of who I am and what this place is. But honestly? Pick whichever title above made you curious, start there, and let me know what you think.
Julie